There’s this saying about war and love. While is not wise to talk about fairness when it comes to war, in love truly anything goes if partners are consensual. When the relationship is only between two people they can agree on many things, and respect their boundaries and each other. But, when you decide that the two of you are not enough matters change. They change drastically. Many couples enter a stage of their relationship when things get boring. Bring in an adult toy is one of the options. A wise one if you ask us.
But, as we said, things will not remain the same. Having a sex toy in bed will make your relationship different. In a way, it’s like cheating on a partner. Not as dreadful, but you need to take it easy. Not all sides will react the same way when you bring a new player onto the field. You need to do it with care, through conversation. It’s not like you can just sit at the table and say things is how things will be from today. It’s like introducing your lover to a new one during a night out with friends. You need to strategize.
As we said, the rules will change, and it’s better to get acquainted with them early. If your plan contains a part that will have an adult toy become a part of your sexual life with your partner you need to know the rulebook. You know how the referees in NFL often steer controversies. There are dozen of them, cameras all around reviews available, and mistakes still occur. There is only one of you. The margin for error is quite smaller.
So, let us talk to you about the four rules of using adult toys in a relationship. Once you read this piece, the transition will be a piece of cake for you. In the mid time, between readings, you can explore Tantaly, and see if there’s something you desire, even before you know the rules. In this part of your relationship, you can break that one little. Start early, surprise your partner, and let the games begin.
1. Don’t Make it a Surprise
Let’s start here. Surprises in bed are not a very wise decision. As we said, when it comes to adult toys, you need to approach them with utmost care. Your partner and you need to be on the same page. This is vital. No surprises! A sex toy is like another person in bed. Yes, it is an inanimate object, but its purpose is to provide additional pleasure. You wouldn’t sit with your long-time partner and simply introduce them to your new lover, now wouldn’t you? Bringing an adult toy into bed without consent is similar to cheating. You do not want to get caught cheating. If you get.. well you know where that leads. Some relationships survive cheating, and it is not unfamiliar. But, when it comes to sex toys, they’re more of a taboo, so you might find yourself in a pinch that you simply can’t exit. So, whatever you do, talk to your partner, get their approval, and keep the surprises for birthday parties.
2. Don’t Forget to Talk
This is also vital. When you introduce an adult toy to your bed, things will go in a different direction. If everything goes according to plan, you’ll be enjoying it like never before. That’s great you’re probably thinking. But, in essence, it could create a few issues. Even if you’re having a blast, it will leave some space for thinking. Your partner might start reevaluating your connection, and bed affairs. This is why it’s important to talk. Talk before then sex, talk during it, and especially talk after it. Talk about what is good, what’s bad, and what could you change in the future. Of course, look into the past. Talk about the issues that caused an adult toy need. Talk about what you could do differently and try to make up for it in the future. Having an adult toy in bed is great, it can be even better, but without proper communication, it could easily end our relationship. So being on the same page and communicating constantly is what both you and your partner should do.
3. Be Safe
Easier said than done. But when it comes to sex, you need to take good care of your safety. Both physically and mentally. Just because it is still a game between yourself and your partner it doesn’t mean that you can’t get some health issues. It’s quite possible, especially if you’re using bigger adult toys. Various sorts of infections and irritations can still happen. So, if you’re using a penetrating tool, don’t forget to wash it. Use condoms at all times. Take care of yourself and your partner. Look for wear and tear on both the toy and yourself. Yes, we put safety as rule number three but it could easily top our list. So, do not ever neglect it. As we said, passion with a third object in the bed can be over the top, which for some people means losing their minds. Don’t be one of those people. Yes, lose your mind, be passionate, and have a great time. But, do not ever, under any circumstances forget about the safety and health of yourself and your partner.
4. Do It Together
Yes, this is what everyone assumes. But, what do we mean together? Well, we mean everything. Yes, you’ll be in the bed together. But, it starts before that. You need to select the right toy. Selection matters. Just ask any of the coaches going into the World Cup in Qatar. Your partner and you are the coaches of your bed and your sex life. This is why it’s vital to choose the adult toy you like together. Not only to choose it but to shop for it together. Maybe you even don’t know what you want. So, you must go shopping together. Finding what you like this way, and being on the same page is half the job done. After this, you’ll find the bed part to be a piece of cake.
